By Dorothy Dix
DEAR DOROTHY DIX: I have been going with Brenda for two years. She’s very devoted to me I’m afraid, however, I took her too much for granted I knew she’d always be waiting for me, usually sitting by the telephone. I’d fail to keep dates without calling her, objected to her girl friends, even found fault with her business associates I fully intended to marry her, but in my own good time.
Last week she had a date with another man. I never spent much money on the girl, this other fellow took her to dinner at an expensive place and a show. I realize now how much I love her, and want to buy an engagement ring. She doesn’t seem to care whether I do or don’t. If she does come back to me, would I ever be able to trust her again?
Danny
DEAR DANNY: Of all the nerve! After two years of the most unchivalrous behavior, the gal finally gets fed up, has a date with another fellow, and you blow up! If I knew how you could get her back, I wouldn’t tell.
Brenda was a dope long enough. The dead end of a telephone can get too lonesome — or didn’t you ever think of that? So I say, three cheers for the girl’s spunk and may another boy’s considerate attention overcome the spell of your false charms.
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DEAR DOROTHY DIX: I’ve loved a boy for six months but he doesn’t seem to love me any more — though once he did He hasn’t told me he doesn t like me but never calls or talks to me, and dates other girls
C.H.
DEAR C.H.: One of the functions of that famous women’s intuition is to tell when a male no longer cares Raiely is masculine courage equal to the task of coming right out and saving, “I don’t like you” You must learn to know the signals — and I think you’re correctly tuned to this beam.
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DEAR DOROTHY DIX: I’m in love with a fellow who’s a singer and who travels extensively. When he was here in September, he said he liked me, and would write. He asked me to wait for him, but so far I haven’t received one letter. Should I continue waiting, or go out with others.
Stella
DEAR STELLA: Your wandering minstrel is singing his theme, to another doll: Better give up waiting.
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DEAR DOROTHY DIX: At the beginning of the term, John and I exchanged rings Then he went to an out-of-town college. I had one date with another boy. John heard about it and was furious. During the holidays he came home and returned my ring. How can I get him back?
Lois !
DEAR LOIS: Some girls like the advantages of going steady, but dislike its limitations. If you get John back, remember it will mean no dating until summer. Better play the field.
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DEAR DOROTHY DIX: Last month my boy friend, Cliff, said some unkind things about my girl friend, Liz. I know I shouldn’t have told Liz, but I did She promised not to say anything, but she did. Now, of course, Cliff is mad at me and I guess he has reason. He hasn’t tried to see me since. What can I do to make up?
Adrienne
DEAR ADRIENNE: One of the most difficult temptations to resist is passing on confidences. A secret is told, and always with the proviso. “No don’t you dare tell anyone!”. Why should you expect someone else to keep faith, when you couldn’t.
All three of you were wrong in this little contretemps. You are all petty gossips. Why not get together and sign the pledge — to hold your tongues!
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DEAR DOROTHY DIX: Two years ago my husband left me I haven’t seen or heard from him since I thought the world had ended, but I pulled myself together for my child’s sake I got out of the financial mess I was in and, in time, the wound healed the debts were paid, and my son and I were happy.
Now I have located my husband and find he has married. There never was a divorce, so he has committed bigamy, but I just can’t bring myself to do anything about it I certainly am not in love with him, but neither am I avenging. Should I tell, or keep quiet?
Pearl
DEAR PEARL: It so happens that you aren’t the only person involved — there’s the second wife. You needn’t make a public scandal over the affair, but the other woman deserves the consideration of knowing that her position is not legal. She undoubtedly married your husband in good faith, and he is in a position where he can walk out on her anytime. She at least, should be told the truth.
(When sending problems to Dorothy Dix, be sure to enclose a stamped, self-addressed envelope, and address in care of this newspaper.)
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From The Frederick Post. Frederick, Maryland. January 17, 1957.
